Any recommendations for a where a tired Mom/wife can SAFELY escape for emotional rest?
nlm5527 asked:
My husband got taken by a fraud and has left to do some ‘soul’ searching and work on ‘self-improvement’. He had a frightening breathing problem and was very ill and in hospital before leaving and needs to recover. However, he has left me handling most of his business problems-and they are BIG ones. My adult daughter is struggeling financially trying to raise her children alone, asks for help, but won’t take advice.My grown son has A.D.D. and anxiety & jumps from job to job. He refuses to go back to college to get a degree, lives in a small home he purchased, but can’t pay the bills. My youngest daughter lost her best friend in an accident and although is getting counseling and doing better still falls into tears at times. I’ve found toxic mold in the basement ceiling that I need to take care of-without the support of my husband. These are only some of the problems-there are more. I’m really exhausted and don’t have much to give them anymore. I need to give me ‘me’ for awhile! Advice?
FYI-I HAVE THE COUNSELOR, STOPPED ‘DOING’ FOR THEM, AM TAKING CLASSES IN INTERIOR DESIGN, AND I HAVE BEEN CONSIDERING THE HUSBAND THING. 30 PLUS YRS. OF MARRIAGE, 5 KIDS, 6 GRANDCHILDREN…IT’S A HARD HABIT TO BREAK BUT I’M ABOUT THERE….
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My husband got taken by a fraud and has left to do some ‘soul’ searching and work on ‘self-improvement’. He had a frightening breathing problem and was very ill and in hospital before leaving and needs to recover. However, he has left me handling most of his business problems-and they are BIG ones. My adult daughter is struggeling financially trying to raise her children alone, asks for help, but won’t take advice.My grown son has A.D.D. and anxiety & jumps from job to job. He refuses to go back to college to get a degree, lives in a small home he purchased, but can’t pay the bills. My youngest daughter lost her best friend in an accident and although is getting counseling and doing better still falls into tears at times. I’ve found toxic mold in the basement ceiling that I need to take care of-without the support of my husband. These are only some of the problems-there are more. I’m really exhausted and don’t have much to give them anymore. I need to give me ‘me’ for awhile! Advice?
FYI-I HAVE THE COUNSELOR, STOPPED ‘DOING’ FOR THEM, AM TAKING CLASSES IN INTERIOR DESIGN, AND I HAVE BEEN CONSIDERING THE HUSBAND THING. 30 PLUS YRS. OF MARRIAGE, 5 KIDS, 6 GRANDCHILDREN…IT’S A HARD HABIT TO BREAK BUT I’M ABOUT THERE….
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I suggest you speak to a psychiatrist and an attorney. Ditch your husband and tell your daughter to grow up. That’ll get rid of a bunch of your problems right there. As for your grown son, tell him to grow up also. He’s an adult and his problems are HIS responsibility. Your younger daughter needs to do the same. It sounds to me like have pampered them all WAY too long. Kick them to the curb.
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A spa, for a few hours.
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GOOD KNIGHT, WOMAN! No human should have to go through that! Man, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I’m guessing that you’re going to want something that won’t cost a whole lot, and you probably can’t afford to be gone for long…
Have you considered a day of pampering at your local spa? Get a facial, manicure, pedicure, massage, etc. $150-$200 should take you pretty far. It won’t solve your problems, but it will help you relax a bit, and hopefully give your body a break from all of that stress.
Good luck!
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massage, chiropractor, acupressure, cupping, facial and a hairday
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I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. Hopefully things will start to clear up soon for you and you can start to get some relaxation for yourself.
I’m not sure if you are wanting to go on a short getaway or if you are wanting a trip. But for something shorter to relax and unwinde a little bit. I think a nice day at the spa to treat yourself. Get a full body massage, relax in the hot tub or sauna, get your nails done, etc. Then have a nice dinner and go to a movie or play afterwards. Maybe you can find one that has a hotel in it so you can stay there fore one night to really get away from it all. If this isn’t an option, financially, than you could do something similar at home. Turn off the TV, computers, phones, etc. and just unwind. Get a hot tub of water with some bubbles, light a couple of scented (lavender is great) candles, maybe a glass of wine if you like, or a box (or two) of choclate. Grab a book and just lay in the tub and relax and try to forget about everything. Maybe even a day of shopping or doing something that you enjoy. It doesn’t always have to be a full week or a long period of time to help you relax. Just a day away from all your problems will really help you. See if you can get one of your best friends to go with you so they can help ease your worries as well.
If you are wanting a little longer getaway. You could also do a spa like vacation. Go to one of the many around the country that offer a spa vacation, rather than just a day at the spa. You could also look into cruising. Being a person that has taken, many, many cruises I can tell you first hand that it is the most relaxing way to travel. They pamper you the whole time, you don’t have to worry about anything, the food is great, you get some nice shows, etc. It’s wonderful. In fact, it is my favorite way to travel. Then you could still get yourself a nice spa treatment. Plus, you can go to the beach when you get to land and just lay back and enjoy the sun. You could also just visit a nice place on the beach for a relaxing vacation.
These are just a few ideas for you. I hope that it helps you get started. Good luck and I hope that your situation will turn around soon.
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CRUISE
Well, escape it’s not a method, but I agree you need some of your own time to relax. I suggest you go to cruise with some of your good friends. It’s good to travel with friends, since more people more fun. If you are alone, you will tend of ‘think’ more about negative matters.
Cruise are great for mother and wife, since you live on the ship. You can eat anytime, you don’t have to worry about packing your luggage, and when the ship arrive at a destination, you just abort and go. Also, in the sea, on the way, you can relax and have fun on the ship. You don’t need to sit on the same sit (such as train or plane), and you can also go to spa at the ship too)
If you live in US, I suggest you go to this site
you can email them and ask for Christian counselling near your place.
I will pray for you.
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It sounds like you are the glue that holds everything together. Your husband sounds like he’s running from his problems, you need to cut the strings from your oldest daughter and son, make them fend for themselves (you had to,didn’t you?). As for your youngest, you don’t state how old or how long ago this tragedy happened. Give her time. Set your priorities! what affects ME most is first,(your health, bills, house maintenance,etc.) followed by who can not survive without me next ( the dog, cat, fish etc.)
Unless you wear your underwear on the outside, don’t try and save the world. {don’t be a hero} and go to a spa and pamper yourself – get a massage………. Relax!
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my heart raced hearing abt ur life.
i guess u have too much a single soul can handle.
dont thnk u can solve ur children’s problem.leave them to themselves and god(i know its not easy but thts no other way)
firstly u shud take care abt urslef.
practice deep breathing everyday in free time.and try thinking. u may notice most of the stress added is cos of ur thoughts.
be a lil detached from all even from ur husband.
give autosuggestion to urself(tht u r relaxed and life is good)b4 going to sleep.
have a nice life.
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Go to the beach or somewhere quiet where you can just relax. However, the other alternative is go to a boxing gym and punch the hell out of the boxing bag.