what kind of friend is this :(?
Madison asked:
I have this “friend” who I met in college about 8 yrs ago. we hung out and did stuff together. well after she graduated college (she graduated a year after me), I got her her first job working with me. then i resigned and moved to a dif company and she wasnt happy with where she was so I got her a 2nd job with me. also in the meantime i met another girl and I got her a job too and she was my supposed “friend” well i got very sick from a toxic mold environment and my job performance went down and i was fired. soon after, my friend wasnt there for me anymore. i was in the hospital and she knew, and she never called or even checked on me or anything for months and months. then she calls me out of the blue and we caught up. well i am starting a new job and i turnd down an offer for another and told her that i could recommend her for it since i wasnt taking it. well she called me tonight and didnt thank me for thinking of her at all, she told me she was going back
to where we used to work and telling me how much money she’ll be making and then she goes on to ask me how much money i m ake at my new job, when did i start, is this my first job since i was fired etc. she talked about 3 times about how much more money she’ll make and totally asked questions of me that i didnt want her to know. now she knows that i dont make as much as her and its like she’s rubbing it all in my face. i am so hurt. and that other “friend” she stopped talking to me last year
i feel used, if i need help they turn and run but if they want something they call me, or call me and tell me if they got promoted or how much they make now etc. i keep thinking “i am the reason they are both working there in the first place”
this “friend” that i met during work, when my fiance and I broke up she called HIM behind my back telling him that even though i’m not his friend anymore, she’s still his friend. then my fiance and i got back together but finally broke up again and she called him twice wanting to talk to him even after we were broken up. it made me so mad
what should i do, should i delete her from my myspace page and never speak to her again?
Black Mold
I have this “friend” who I met in college about 8 yrs ago. we hung out and did stuff together. well after she graduated college (she graduated a year after me), I got her her first job working with me. then i resigned and moved to a dif company and she wasnt happy with where she was so I got her a 2nd job with me. also in the meantime i met another girl and I got her a job too and she was my supposed “friend” well i got very sick from a toxic mold environment and my job performance went down and i was fired. soon after, my friend wasnt there for me anymore. i was in the hospital and she knew, and she never called or even checked on me or anything for months and months. then she calls me out of the blue and we caught up. well i am starting a new job and i turnd down an offer for another and told her that i could recommend her for it since i wasnt taking it. well she called me tonight and didnt thank me for thinking of her at all, she told me she was going back
to where we used to work and telling me how much money she’ll be making and then she goes on to ask me how much money i m ake at my new job, when did i start, is this my first job since i was fired etc. she talked about 3 times about how much more money she’ll make and totally asked questions of me that i didnt want her to know. now she knows that i dont make as much as her and its like she’s rubbing it all in my face. i am so hurt. and that other “friend” she stopped talking to me last year
i feel used, if i need help they turn and run but if they want something they call me, or call me and tell me if they got promoted or how much they make now etc. i keep thinking “i am the reason they are both working there in the first place”
this “friend” that i met during work, when my fiance and I broke up she called HIM behind my back telling him that even though i’m not his friend anymore, she’s still his friend. then my fiance and i got back together but finally broke up again and she called him twice wanting to talk to him even after we were broken up. it made me so mad
what should i do, should i delete her from my myspace page and never speak to her again?
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first of all I hope you’re feeling better. Dump your friend, sounds like she knows you can get her good jobs. A real friend doesnt ask you how much money you make
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You need to find new friends.
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those are some lame freinds
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are you sure you grad from college 8 yrs ago? this sounds like a jr high situations
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You need to fiend new friends fast! Don’t waste your time or energy on these girls, they are users.
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That’s not a friend.
She needs to get her priorities straight.
I’m sorry, but I think she was just using you.
It doesn’t matter how much money you make; you’re far better than her.
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Friends are NOT opportunists. Drop these people before they can be so hurtful.
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drop her as a friend. She obvioulsy doesn’t care about u. She sounds like she is using you to get jobs. I mean u were in the hospital and she didn’t even care to check on u. Stop calling her. I am sure she won’t call u until she needs something. Then when she does ignore her
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You are a caring person, and those people was not your friends. theywere people needed something from you, and now they have moved on. they will need your assistance again.
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She’s clearly a b,itch. Also, do NOT tell people things that are none of their business. Just don’t tell them. Be strong.
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sounds like shes envious of you so shes trying to make it seem like her life is better….chances are that its not. i have an ex bf like that and he and his new wife talked about how they make so much money blah blah blah…well they came to me with help about a month ago (i am a financial agent) to help them get out of debt. turns out they werent as happy as he was trying to make it seem.
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If I were you, I’d find some new friends. You don’t wana put yourself in that kinda situation and have extra drama in your life. You need to find mature friends. Good luck! They are out there so don’t worry!
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that is no friend at all my father had people like that pass through his life and he saw right through
you have to see people’s character before you react to them
because some people in life would only like it when your doing worse than them just watch out for her sooner or later she would end up doing something worse than just rub a job in your face
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A BAD FRIEND.
That is the friend that we call a user/much….I have had plenty of them.
Sounds like she knew that you could get her a job anywhere you worked kind of….so she used you to get her foot in the door. But since she found a job where she makes good money she just ditched you.
Note to self- Keep your friends close. But your enemies closer. and chose your friends better next time. and dont help them get a job with you
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mean brat how could she do that to you horrible it makes me repoluced. what is problem is she like retarded or something. tell her i think she is a CRAZY she needs to go to a ensaine asilame tell her you hate her and you made her who she is today.
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obviously not a friend at all. a friend is someone who is always there for you no matter what, they always no when something is wrong and trys their hardest to help you out. If your “friend” isn’t like it then she is just a person trying to walk over you. I’ve had ALOT of friends like that. My best advice is to make sure they are your friend and be ready to say NO or WHY DON”T I PICK? Make sure neither of you are trying to be the “leader” but are both equals
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only those who has lasted with you for years and years could be your true friends. I think you need to find a different way to help those so they can find a new direction to grow in, instead of being in the same places with you. Please also consider that when you spend time with your friends that you are not just an advisor for those select people but, a support beam to make them laugh when they are down. You sound like a truly motivated friend to ask others to evaluate how you should look at people who may be your friends. However, it’s truly you who sees them as they are for the way they treat you. Never let anyone walk on you! Much luck and love.